Posted by JayMac on December 21, 2008, at 3:15:44
In reply to Gifts, posted by vwoolf on December 21, 2008, at 0:29:27
Ouch! I find it odd that your T did that. I wonder what she was thinking. Maybe she didn't want to eat in front of you. Nevertheless, if it were me, I would have thanked you and asked you if you wanted us to cut pieces and have cake together.
What a kind and special gesture for you to take the time to make a cake, take the care to bring it in, and literally show her that you enjoy the relationship enough to want to eat with her. I think eating with someone is a very intimate act. It's the same day-to-day sort of intimacy that we do not usually have with our therapists.
In my opinion, I think it would best to discuss this with your T. If you have walked around with this for so long, you NEED to talk with your T. She NEEDS to understand how it effected you. I think this is a big deal. I wonder if there's anything else you are holding inside that you are afraid to let go of, with your T or not. I think discussing the cake incident will relieve you.
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