Posted by onceupon on November 25, 2008, at 9:08:05
In reply to Re: Hmmm..... » onceupon, posted by 10derHeart on November 24, 2008, at 23:22:53
Hi 10der,
I like the phrase "controlled chaos" - it sounds like just the kind of quality I'd want in a therapist. Not too sterile, but also not overly chaotic.
It's kind of funny to hear you describe my therapist as comforting. It's not a word that I usually associate with her. On the other hand, when I go back and read the description I wrote, I can see comfort in there. It's nice to see that from another perspective :)
Do you agree with your therapist about having never visited "dumb places" in your therapy? I can see both sides of it. I think the process, whatever it is, is definitely important. But I'm also reminded that I'm paying for her time and it can be frustrating to go down what feel like dead ends. I have gotten better at just abruptly changing topics (after asking permission - heh). Before, my extreme sense of politeness would have prohibited me from doing that.
I'm glad you posted too :) It sounds like you had, and have a wonderful relationship with your therapist. I'm sorry to hear that things feel a little rough right now (if I read that correctly from what you wrote). I had a similar, but not quite the same situation several years ago. I had been seeing a therapist for about a year and a half, and then had to move 1000 miles away. She encouraged me to phone her, initially, and later on, to connect via email. Our contacts immediately after I moved were more "therapeutic." I had ongoing worries that I was contacting her too much, bothering her, etc. She always reassured me that she liked to hear from me. Now, more than four years later, I email her maybe 3 or 4 times a year to say hi and check in, and I'd say our contacts are more "friendly." I don't feel the same intense need to talk to her all the time that I did in the first year. There are still times when I wish I could see her - as a therapist - but I think I've come to terms with the current nature of our relationship. Someday I might completely lose contact, but I hope not.
Oops, I set out to write a response and then wrote a book instead. I do hope you keep posting, 10der. It's nice to hear your story.
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