Posted by sassyfrancesca on November 25, 2008, at 8:10:33
In reply to I'd like to get to know the Babble therapists, posted by Dinah on November 24, 2008, at 20:29:20
> I wish we could get a Babble therapist convention together.
So do I. Actually, if anyone is interested, I can give you his webpage.
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> Can you guys describe your therapist? Yes.What is their best quality? Hmmm.....I think everything about him is the "best" (except when he makes me angry, LOL)
Their worst? What is uniquely "them"?
He is the most deeply intellectual human I've ever met---and that turns me on more than anything.
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> My therapist is a large man. Very tall but also broad. He has that deep voice that large men sometimes have. He makes me feel small, which helps me a lot to access the less defended part of me.My t is 5 feet 10 inches, brown hair. The first time I spoke with him via the phone, I fell in love with his voice. I still love it.
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> I always described him as very receptive and open, yet with a very firm inner core. He describes himself as very even keeled, but not necessarily stable. :)Mine is stable. BUt he makes me feel UNstable when he flip-flops between professional and personal.
I told him that "sometimes you drive me crazy. you exhaust me, LOL"
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> That quote from Monk really describes his therapy demeanor. Unflappable.
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> "At least I never dug Trudy up and stuffed her." "I've always been proud of you for that."
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> There is nothing I can say that can seriously throw him off balance. Me either, he has an answer for everything. I used to try a fair bit.
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> The flip side is that he's terribly disorganized and always late.Mine is always on time.
He almost never calls me back before ten after, and later isn't unusual. He barely can remember a thing. Although that isn't all bad, because I can tell him something over and over again and it's all interesting and new to him.
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> I have the impression that he can be self indulgent at times. Yet he works harder than anyone I've ever known. He's full of contradictions really. Yet he's also perfectly predictable.
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> He almost never tells stories about his other clients - past or present. I like that about him because I trust him not to tell stories about me.Mine shares some client stories.
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> He's ridiculously optimistic. Both about himself and about me. That annoys me. I think he doesn't see trouble until it's upon him. Not bouncy optimistic. That I couldn't take in a long term therapist. More deluded optimistic.
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> He's not really warm and fuzzy, even if I do compare him to a Newfoundland. He's not overly sympathetic. He stays in his chair, and doesn't thrust his psychic presence on others. He doesn't overwhelm me. But I suspect there are those who would find him a bit distant.I need warm and fuzzy. I pull the chair up within inches of him. He has commented a few times that i am too close. Ha, ha!
I can count on one hand with fingers left over the number of times we've run over time.
I always get an hour and a half; in years past it was 3 hours!!
But I've totally lost count of the number of times he's shorted me on time. I've only seen him look really emotional once, when we put the down payment on the house in another city. He's certainly never cried.
My t cried (I am a writer, poet) when I wrote a poem about his father (his father abused him). He had to leave the room.
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> He has dreadful taste in friends. But his taste in clothing and furnishings is nice enough to intimidate me at times.I am "toast" when a man wears a sports coat or suit; my t usually wears a sport coat (with cashmere sweater), dress slacks and those shoes I love; expensive with the tassels.
In the Summer he wears (eeeeuwww) Hawaiian shirts; i have told him what a turnoff those are!!
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> He can be incredibly dense and say very foolish things at times. Yet... He's so grounded in some ways.
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> Well, I've written a book. Did I capture his essence? I'd love to put a word picture together for everyone's therapist. It would help put posts in context, I think.yes, yo captured his essence. I wish I could meet all of these therapists!
Hugs, Sassy (still in love with my t)
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