Posted by onceupon on October 23, 2008, at 8:53:00
In reply to Re: I need a new me.... » muffled, posted by rskontos on October 22, 2008, at 19:14:25
> What i mean is I need to commit fully or not at all. I need to try harder and stop babbling each session but say something meaningful. I mean the conversation I have with him in my head so that I at least feel better. But then again I think would I feel better telling him these private thoughts. See what I mean about getting off that wee pot thing? I think myself in circles.
I can empathize with this. Asking myself, why am I in therapy if I can't or won't say the things I need or want to say. It's easier for me to look at your situation and say that maybe it's a cycle. Maybe we dip in and out of disclosing the "deep" stuff and that's OK. Or maybe it takes awhile to get to the deep stuff - and usually it's longer than we might like - and that's OK too. Telling yourself that you need to commit fully or not at all sounds like kind of a setup to me.
Can you maybe commit to practicing the things you want to try? I'm thinking this approach would work best in therapy. And hopefully, it's one that you can enlist your therapist to help you with.
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