Posted by lucie lu on September 27, 2008, at 23:02:06
In reply to Re: Partners' feelings about your LT therapy? » lucie lu, posted by stellabystarlight on September 19, 2008, at 23:58:31
> Yikes!!! Your husband stumbled upon your journal entries about your transference? No wonder it's causing problems for you and your husband. As psychologically sophisticated as my husband is, he would have a very hard time understanding my intense and passionate transference. I'd better be extra careful about leaving my computer open.Stella, I love your yikes!!! Well put. And yes -watch your computer. Naively I used to think my journal entries were safe in a rather buried directory, but obviously they weren't. I'm not really journaling now but if I did I would do it on-line. It's so important to be able to write your thoughts and know they will remain yours alone. No one else really understands them because are a product of you and the context in which they were written. Anyway, I've taken everything personal off my disk now so I don't have to worry, in the future at least. Although it's a bit late.
> Gosh, I'm sorry Lucie. I can see how your husband's reactions have complicated your therapy. It's hard enough to do therapy without having his feelings to deal with. Have you thought about marriage counseling? Would he be open to it? Maybe a counselor can help your husband work through his insecurities, etc. and help him understand how therapy has helped your relationship.I think marriage counseling would help and I will bring it up. I do think it would help the intimacy between us which in itself would provide him more of a sense of security. I really do love my husband.
Thanks, StellaLucie
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