Posted by Nadezda on August 19, 2008, at 14:09:37
In reply to Re: Update: Termination because of strong transfer » nebulae, posted by Wittgensteinz on August 19, 2008, at 12:40:20
The most constructive thing I can suggest, if you feel you can't leave this T, is to try to find out more clearly, and in more detail-- or in any way you can-- what your T sees as your not being able, or willing, to work in therapy.
Whatever you understand now, there must be more to it. You say that your T is very experienced and that your relationship was going really well. Yet he says that there are many things over a long period that make him feel that you're not able to work on the issues that are getting in the way. Clearly, you and he are not communicating well-- something is missing. You might be able to learn more about what's at stake for him, and how you might learn to hear better whatever perspective he has that led him to think termination was necessary.
I hope you can make some sort of progress and stay in the relationship if that's what you need.
Nadezda
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