Posted by Looney Tunes on August 17, 2008, at 22:38:03
In reply to Update: Termination because of strong transference, posted by nebulae on August 17, 2008, at 21:59:57
Wow neb. This is quite shocking. I re-read your original post about the phone call and then this post.
Lets look at the facts. You made an inappropriate phone call after an inappropriate pick up by his wife. You acknowledged that your phone call was wrong. And now, he wants to dump you. I think he is wrong.
To me, this is something to talk about. Obvious you have feelings about that and it is something to talk about. The transference is the what makes the therapy.You know I ask my T about his family all the time. Sometimes he answers (like yes I have kids) and sometimes we discuss why it is so important that I know. My feelings are always fantasies of what I wish I had. VERY important to talk about. He would not dump me because of transference of this type.
Now, if you threatened him or his family, he should terminate because he is probably frightened and could not work effectively with you. But it does not seem that you did that, right?
Neb, I am really at a loss. I know it is painful, but have you thought about looking for a more psychodynamic therapist or can work with STRONG transference. They are out there and some do sliding scales.
This just does not seem right to me. Transference just does not go away. It is part of everyday life and our relationship patterns.
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