Posted by rskontos on August 18, 2008, at 20:14:16
In reply to Re: Update: Termination because of strong transference » nebulae, posted by Tabitha on August 18, 2008, at 11:49:38
Nebulae,
I agree with everyone. In fact, my t who has been one for a long time, told me that transference is in fact a good thing as long as it is handle appropriately by the therapist. He says it is his responsibility I stay safe within the confines of therapy. Now I haven't let him in to get to that point, that is my own inability to trust anyone. But he never shies away from, instead he says I need to see him as a parental/dad/good figure so that I will learn relationships are good things. I don't see them as such at the present. If for some reason I developed a strong transference I could never see him running from it, I see him as being capable to deal with it the way a good therapist should and needs to.
I question the way yours is handling you and perhaps he is causing more pain than is necessary and I think you might need to listen to everyone else and look for someone that has the professional skills to work with transference. It is something that often happens and isn't a bad thing.
take care, and I am sorry you are hurting when you should not be.
rsk
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