Posted by Wittgensteinz on August 19, 2008, at 12:40:20
In reply to Update: Termination because of strong transference, posted by nebulae on August 17, 2008, at 21:59:57
Hi Nebulae,
I read your earlier threads too, and I agree what others have written in response. The way your T is handling this sounds most unprofessional. This kind of occurrence is a client's worst nightmare. You trust someone deeply, you learn to open up and share very intimate things and then they all of a sudden pull the carpet from under your feet.
You don't deserve this reaction. You left him a phone message that might have upset him - that's not something to terminate someone over. He's acting on his counter-transference it seems. He's having a strong reaction, and he should be seeking supervision to deal with his response so that he can continue to work with you through your transference. Instead he's acting on the transference and doing you a lot of harm. This isn't how it should be done.
I don't know what to suggest. It would be a good thing for him to seek supervision about what's happened - that's what he should be doing rather than forcing termination. I think his plan to taper off contact with you, will cause you unnecessary pain. I would immediately search for another therapist, one with a sliding scale. I would also ask your present therapist whether you can together have a consultation with a second therapist regarding the rupture and his choice of actions.
I really feel for you.
Witti
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