Posted by Dinah on August 16, 2008, at 11:39:56
In reply to pdoc update**poss sa trigger**REALLY LONG, posted by antigua3 on August 15, 2008, at 15:24:27
I'm afraid I'm being a bit slow. Are you saying you think that your assessment of his attitude has been mistaken? Or are you saying that even though he is a matter of fact, results oriented, here and now type of therapist, he can also be caring and compassionate?
I can see why it would be terrifying to suddenly start seeing him as a man because of your own feelings and internal connections to his connections.
It may be because I'm applying this thought everywhere now that it's started to mean something to me personally, but perhaps it's another of those dichotomy situations? He can be compassionate *and* he'll probably always be results oriented, no nonsense, and occasionally hurtful, *and* those things have everything to do with him and nothing to do with negative feelings toward you. Men can be warm and nurturing and kind *and* *some* men use these qualities to hurt women, while others would never dream of hurting a woman. Your pdoc is a man with all the appropriate equipment *and* he can feel compassion for you *and* he's not going to follow up on that compassion with demands and expectations from you.
But like I said, I feel a bit thick, so maybe I'm totally missing the point.
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