Posted by Daisym on July 2, 2008, at 21:08:48
In reply to Re: Happyflower, I'll answer that for ya ;o) » LadyBug, posted by Happyflower on July 2, 2008, at 18:52:41
I'm sorry for everything you are going through, LB. I think I agree that something about the adoption and/or teen pregnancy touched something in your therapist that she couldn't handle. I hope she has some good professional reasons why she is suddenly so unavailable to you because otherwise she is being unethical and unprofessional. You can not take someone on as a client and then have no crisis plan - "don't call me" is not a plan.
Given how many good years there were though, it feels like something must have happened. I hope you can package up what was good and what you learned and take that forward. I know it will take a long time to figure out this abandonment and it will likely always bring tears. It feels like it would have been better for her to have come clean and ended the relationship instead of setting such harsh boundaries that she knew would force you would end it.
It feels a lot like marriage - things change after a while and two people just are no longer compatible. It frightens me - because after all, change is the whole purpose of therapy. Makes me think long and hard about the emotional investment.
I hope you feel better soon.
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