Posted by Dinah on May 14, 2008, at 9:44:29
In reply to Re: something bad happened in therapy today. » Dinah, posted by llurpsienoodle on May 14, 2008, at 5:27:07
> Or maybe I will just use the extra time to build a wall around myself that I won't allow him to penetrate.
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> I know that he is very good at what he does. I feel like I've come a long way this year. I don't want to jeopardize that. So many fears. I'm scared.
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> -LlThere is more than one way to jeopardize it. Not allowing him to penetrate your defenses probably isn't the best way to get the most out of therapy, although it's a perfectly understandable impulse when you feel hurt. A lot of therapy seems to be trying to overcome our understandable impulses, don't you think? Why don't you tell him how scared you are? When you see him next if you don't want to call him.
You owe him some money, and he reminded you. I think in the same situation I'd feel a bit embarrassed, and maybe a bit scolded, and maybe a bit angry that he wasn't more organized in billing. But he doesn't sound angry, and it doesn't sound as if your therapy is in any jeopardy.
I think clearskies is right. It might be a good idea to take a check for your copay each session. It's way easier than trying to do the bookkeeping. If he doesn't have a problem with your doing it, it could give you one less thing to worry about. I write my checks out at home too, so just have to hand it to him.
And if you can't pay him the entire amount right now, propose a payment plan, and add it to the per session checks. I seriously doubt he'll be angry. He's more likely to be proud of you for facing this head on.
It'll be ok, really. If he left it this long to bring anything up, I don't think he's going to resent you for trying to bring yourself up to date.
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