Posted by rskontos on May 15, 2008, at 9:48:10
In reply to self-injury triggers » muffled, posted by llurpsienoodle on May 15, 2008, at 7:22:57
Llurspie, I can relate to the dad and money thing. My father told my H went we got marriage to watch out I cost alot. Nice going dad! When one of my sister's got preg for the second time my father ask her did she not know how much a baby costs? Yeah a really nice dad. Everything was always about how much something costs. And what did I do, marry a man that I think has his first dollar but he has actually gotten better and I am now the one that says can we afford this?
So I do understand how hard the money thing is and for him to bring it up like he did hurt you but let me ask one question to think about? I don't want to be mean just to have you think about was there a way, any way he could bring it up that would not hurt you or make you feel bad? If you can think of it, then you need to say, T when you told me I owed you the co-pays it reminded me of my father how he hurt me over money. Could you try _____________. Or if you don't think you can tell him this write him. Mine just hands me a bill as the end of month. I can give him checks along the way, or wait it is my choice.
I hope that helps I don't want to hurt your already tender feelings if I did just tell me to go away.
I am on your side my friend. Take care.
rsk
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