Posted by widget on January 28, 2008, at 16:11:05
In reply to Re: The Intimate Hour ----- » Daisym, posted by JoniS on January 25, 2008, at 7:11:03
Joni, I cannot tell you how badly I feel for you now. Your pain is so clear. I admire you for being able to deal with this situation. It sounds like you are "terminating" because of something in the therapist's life and could go onto another therapist. But, even as I think this, I feel breathless, as I cannot imagine me doing the same thing. I just saw my therapist and wondered why he doesn't just send me to another therapist as it is so painful to know I can never have what I want from him in this relationship. But, if he did, I don't think I could do it! I think I am "accepting" that he will never be in the relationship I want and that feels like a death to me. So, I told him what I had now was the pain to hold onto, at least the pain is real unlike my illusion of being with him. This makes perfect sense to me but he seemed distressed and said we should work on a different defense mechanism to use instead of the pain. But, in my life, it has been better to face the truth that may mean pain than not. So, I feel quite devestated and care about little right now. But, I hope you are ok; your post spoke directly to me. Widget
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