Posted by JoniS on January 24, 2008, at 18:51:27
In reply to Re: The Intimate Hour ----- (long), posted by DAisym on January 24, 2008, at 13:52:00
I guess I imagined the hangman's work is bringing the patient to a final ending. An ending that is imminent, and because of the close relationship, not something we look forward to. Also because there is no room for any other kind of relationship in the future - not friends, not lovers, not business related contacts, the ending is final. (unless of course we need to do new T work) Both patient and T know the end is comeing, and there is a sort of "dread"
that's my stab at it.
ya know, about that "transference" stuff. It just seems to me like that is all our "stuff" from past experiences and relationships, etc, which we take with us into any relationship. If I break up with one guy and start to see another, I take my "stuff" with me. So, I guess I don't see why it sometimes seem like therapy/ists discount some feelings as "transference" - as if our particular feelings for them are not "real".
Anyway, it's all fascinating to me. I found that book so helpful because it let believe that therapists really do, for the most part, care very much for their patients. And it's even hard for them to say goodbye. The bothersome thing I got from the book, just a little bothersome, is that I now believe that the best growth situation is when the T also believes it's the relationship that is the vehicle for growth and change. I don't think my T has that same philosophy. I would love to go deeper, longer, not just a session every blue moon on how I feel about him, but also more about how he feels about his clients, and his life. My T is off his pedestal that I put him on and now practically on the same ground as me.
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