Posted by JoniS on January 25, 2008, at 7:11:03
In reply to Re: The Intimate Hour ----- (long), posted by Daisym on January 24, 2008, at 22:39:29
Daisy
Wise words. I agree with you. Except I do question my T's methods. He definitely hasn't been attentive to our therapy relationship for the last few months that I saw him. He also didn't handle the goodbye well at all. I said "so this is the last time I'll see you til you get back?" He said "no... ethically I cant abandon you...that wouldn't be right..." Then he set our next appointment for March 31. The appointment setting was a clear signal that that was when he returns to work. In an earlier session he said he couldn't abandon me, he would see me still, just not 1x a week like we were then. He said for me to call him after the holidays. I said I'm not going to call him on his sabatical. He called me last week about an accounting question, asked how I was, I told him not so great (I had also sent a letter) then he said "I would see you if I weren't on leave..."
Well, I know that he needs to heal and he needs this time. But he really didn't handle this departure well at all. I feel pretty insignificant to him for how he has done. I am hurting a lot, but I guess it's inevitable when you are separated from someone you care very much about.
I'm going to hold on to the good things that I've gotten from therapy, but I have had such difficulty with how this has been handled, that I don't plan to go back. I've been in the mourning stage of this relationship and I don't want to start up again and go through this again. I know that this is just part of it, but I don't want a repeat.
I have been abandoned.
Joni
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