Posted by muffled on May 8, 2007, at 23:29:22
In reply to Crying. Help me., posted by ElaineM on May 8, 2007, at 14:04:41
Sorry (((El)))
Thats gotta be a shock.
I wonder if the thing she is trying to get at...is to actually make some positive strides in helping you reclaim your life. I am inclined to think that she really wants to help you, but can't...
I would think from her POV, she feels quite lost, cuz all she ever knows is parts of your life. To be an effective T she needs the whole picture. And T's are supposed to back off if they think they can't help the client. And maybe she feels she can't help you because she knows your holding stuff back.
I think it would be important if you could tell her that you are very afraid, that you are confused by her actions, that you are hurt by them, that you desprately need help, but you dunno if you can trust her, and she's not that available, could she be? WOULD she stick by you if you were straight with her????? etc.
El, I think you really need to come clean bout everything to one T, and maybe this T is the one. She has stuck by you this far, and seems to care enough to try and push you take make a desicion that truly, you do need to make.....
Maybe this is the time, this is it.
I would just make it very clear to her what your boundaries are. Also make sure SHE makes it very clear as to what her boundaries are, and would she be very avail to you?
I hope you can finally break free and let yourself share your burden with an outside T, ALL your burden, you've been carrying it long enough.
Take special care El.
Muffled
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