Posted by Daisym on April 20, 2007, at 1:35:05
In reply to Re: Pity party » Daisym, posted by Poet on April 19, 2007, at 20:27:20
Thank you for the supportive messages. It means so much. I still want to stay in bed but forced myself out and to work. And I went to therapy. And cried some more.
Me: I wanted you to call me last night.
him: Why didn't you call me and tell me that? You know it is OK.
me: because I wanted YOU to call ME. But I know it is against the rules, I'm supposed to ask for what I want or need.
him: Why did you want me to call you?
me: I guess I wanted you to tell me this was all going to be OK eventually. I wanted to know you cared about whether I was still having a hard time or not. I know I'm supposed to take care of my broken parts myself but I'm just so tired!
Him: so, since I didn't call, I don't care? You know that's not true. And I have called you, so it isn't a hard and fast "rule." I just don't always know if calling will help or make it worse. If you could make the rules, what would you say? What would help you?
Me: I don't know. I just know what I wanted last night. I'll think about it. Maybe I'd want you to hold me.
Him: I am. Can't you feel it?I could. I always can. And the session was fine, we worked on an old memory that has been triggered. My therapist was solid and reassuring and he took time to talk to the younger parts. But he said he'd like to know what will help and how can I let him know?
So Babblers - what would the rules look like if you could write them?
poster:Daisym
thread:751260
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