Posted by pegasus on April 21, 2007, at 22:20:23
In reply to Re: Thanks and a question -- All » pegasus, posted by Daisym on April 20, 2007, at 18:32:06
<<<<<<Ever? I think in the norm client initiated is good, but the few times mine has called to check in, it has meant a great deal to me.
Yeah, I do think it would have to be ever for me. Because if I was really attached to a T, and I thought that it was in the realm of possibility for them to call me, I'd probably manipulate the hell out of them to try to get them to call me. I mean, not on purpose, but as a type of subconscious testing. And inevitably, they would end up failing the test at some point. I just think that for me it is better to understand that a T won't call me.
Although, my current T has actually called me. And it was nice. But, I'm not very attached to her. For example, today she called to tell me that she has to cancel our appointment for next week because of a death in her family. And this is after I haven't seen her in the past 3 weeks because of her vacation. But that was totally fine with me. In fact, I'd been thinking about canceling anyway, because of scheduling issues.
> <<<<But we've worked hard on "ask for what you need" so even when I call I know I need to say, "please call me, or don't call me" -- though he has been known to ignore the "don't call me" part if he thinks I didn't mean it. :) Scary how well he knows me now.
See, now, I'd totally abuse that. I'd all the time be calling saying "don't call me" but being obviously in a bad state, to see if he'd call me back. All subconsciously, of course.
<<<<<I think is is way less painful to put the brake on yourself than to have them do it.
Exactly. At least when the relationship feels very intense.
> OH and -- "another client"??? Nope. There aren't any, are there? (la la la -- I can't hear you!)
Oh, right, what was I thinking? I had this crazy notion that there would be other clients. What a ridiculous fantasy!
:)
Peg
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