Posted by Dinah on April 2, 2007, at 11:36:14
In reply to Re: one down one to go » Dinah, posted by gazo on April 2, 2007, at 11:22:12
> Lol! That is perfect. i am embarrassed to admit that is probably what it is i am saying now. How much of "getting it" or reading me is his job though? Doesn't he need to be able to figure some of this out when i don't know or don't see the connections?
Sadly, the answer is that he likely can't. Every patient he sees is an individual, and while he may have developed experience in generalities, he has no crystal ball for you, Gazo. In time he might be able to connect things you say in a way you can't, being too close, and use his expertise to make suggestions. Unfortunately while he may be right, sometimes he might be wrong.
I think his real job is to help you learn how to know and to see the connections. I wish therapy were magical, or that I went to therapy and he therapized me. But the truth is that it's more of a slogging learning of my own, with him as a guide and prompt. The work is mine. I guess I must be a slow learner, but I think I'm getting there. :)
(The books and movies don't make it seem that way. They make it seem as if the therapist listens to the client, makes a brilliant interpretation, and the client becomes all better. Either my therapist isn't like this mythical therapist, or I'm not like the mythical client, or the whole idea is a myth, or perhaps wishful thinking on the part of the therapist.)
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