Posted by one woman cine on April 2, 2007, at 10:20:48
In reply to one down one to go, posted by gazo on April 2, 2007, at 8:49:01
>>>>It's hard to explain. i know kind of what they are, but i can't tell him or it would be meaningless.
Why can't you tell him, I'm confused about this.
>>>He has to be able to tell that i need certain things or it won't have any meaning at all.
How can he tell what your needs are? How can anyone tell what another person needs? Can you explain how he might know?
The only way I know is by telling that person what I need.
>>>> i'm not sure what to do. i so badly want him to get it right, but i can't tell him that.
Why not?
>>>i *want* to be able to learn to trust him. That is important because it took a couple of years for me to even consider trusting my pdoc... and i still don't tell him everything.
Trust takes time & it takes hard work on both sides....
>>>We work well together, and i adore him.
That's good!
>>>But we are too much alike personality-wise for me to be able to be really vulnerable or open about some things.
Therapy/treatment is about you - not about him - it doesn't matter if you're alike or not.
> i'm excited because the guy seems very nice and very sharp. He made me laugh and he was able to catch me slightly off guard. That is quite cool in just 2 sessions. It makes me hopeful. But i am terrified too. i am afraid of getting my hopes up again. i am afraid it will be a repeat of all the other times i have tried to connect to people. i am afraid he will hate me iif he met the real me.
I'm not sure how it was all the previous times for you - but I know for myself - if I want things to work differently, I have to do things differently & try things differently. Doing the same things yields the same results.
poster:one woman cine
thread:746201
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