Posted by gazo on April 2, 2007, at 10:41:24
In reply to Re: one down one to go » gazo, posted by one woman cine on April 2, 2007, at 10:20:48
well, let me see if i can explain... i can't tell him because i have trouble identifying feelings and i just don't know how to make it come out. Sometimes i do need something or want something, but i open my mouth and no words come out. Some times the words i can't put things into words.
i want him to be hearing the pain underneath the words i guess. That part he needs to be able to do. i guess i can say it that way to him. If i dettach and tell him something horrific, i need him to be able to get that no matter how pleasant i say it, it must hurt like hell in here somewhere.
i wish i knew how to do it differently. You are right about getting the same results. i have been writing things down for him and trying to give him as much info as i can to improve his chances of connecting with me. i like him and he seems genuine.
hmmm... this is a good lesson for me. Maybe if i can make you guys understand what i am getting at, then maybe i can then explain it to him. i could always print out the thread.
poster:gazo
thread:746201
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