Posted by Dinah on March 1, 2007, at 14:51:59
In reply to Re: update, posted by annierose on March 1, 2007, at 12:52:21
I think I tend to agree with her overall. Any relationship has to be judged on its whole.
I love the simile they used in "The Four Seasons" with Alan Alda. In an early scene his character likens marriage to a wave, in that there are peaks and troughs. Later he tells his wife "You know how our good times together come in waves? Right now I'd say we're in a very deep trough."
I use it often enough in marriage and in therapy that my therapist has picked it up. And whenever we're in a spot where all we do is fight, he reminds me of it and tells me to have patience. That we've had an overall good relationship, and that troughs will happen but that we have the commitment and desire to ride them out.
It's a sort of overall view of a relationship (or job or whatever) that I like. I know my own preference is avoid the intense highs and lows and stick with a good solid pretty happy.
Do you think you'll ask her to get a consultation? I've always been terrified of my therapist talking to other therapists for fear they'll tell him something that conflicts with what suits me just fine. But I have been tempted at times.
I never did record my conversations either. Or even ask permission to do it. :)
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