Posted by Dinah on February 26, 2007, at 19:40:41
In reply to Re: update, posted by sunnydays on February 26, 2007, at 18:17:07
I've had the same sort of experience. And oddly enough it was often after a therapy break. I'd accuse him of going to a seminar during his vacation and learning some new thing that he thought would help me but that WAS NOT HELPING.
I think *maybe* that they come off the break with a new resolve to help, or something like that. Didn't your therapist just have a vacation?
Although the same sort of thing happened just recently, when he was really concerned about me and was pushing me to do what he thought was best, or was angry with me for doing something he didn't think was good for me. So maybe he has some special reason to feel concerned?
I think that I react badly to that sort of thing. I'm not sure if that hurts me therapeutically, but I know he says I "bite", and to some extent he doesn't push me as much as he would if I didn't get angry. Sometimes maybe it would be good for me to be pushed more.
But still, it hurts going in expecting one thing and getting another. And it's worse because therapy is so one sided that we don't always know *why*.
It doesn't mean that he cares about you any less. Just that for some reason, he's expressing that caring differently.
(I'm not sure of the therapeutic value of this, but I'm hoping that he'll go back to "normal" soon so that you'll have the therapist you expect.)
And as always, it's good to talk about it with him, and you might gain an insight into what he's thinking.
poster:Dinah
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