Posted by frida on February 26, 2007, at 20:39:47
In reply to Re: ^^^please respond to the above, somebody^^^^ » Raindancer, posted by sunnydays on February 26, 2007, at 20:28:08
Hi..
I am sorry you are hurting..
I so understand how you feel..Whenever my T stops being warm and caring the way she usually is I panic and start feeling she doesn't care...It's a horrible feeling.
She has pushed me hard sometimes, when inside I feel like a little girl who wants love and comfort and not hard words...
but it doesn't mean the love and warmth go away...
it's out of caring too...
I know it's hard to feel it, but the times it has happened, I've talked it through with my T and she explained to me why she treated me in a certain way or pushed me hard and I understood it was because she truly cares and wanted me to react, even though it hurt.Your T doesn't stop caring....it's hard, and painful, when they push us hard and we need safe love but it doesn't mean they don't love us anymore.
Hard sessions are horrible, it will be ok, you will discuss this with him and he will make you feel safe again...
I know it hurts a lot, when it happens I lose all sense of safety...but it will be ok...
love,
Frida
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