Posted by sunnydays on February 26, 2007, at 20:55:46
In reply to Re: ^^^please respond to the above, somebody^^^^, posted by frida on February 26, 2007, at 20:39:47
> Hi..
>
> I am sorry you are hurting..
> I so understand how you feel..
>
> Whenever my T stops being warm and caring the way she usually is I panic and start feeling she doesn't care...It's a horrible feeling.**** Yeah. I was so scared I actually felt dizzy in the session. (I forget to breathe sometimes).
> She has pushed me hard sometimes, when inside I feel like a little girl who wants love and comfort and not hard words...
**** yeah. My T said he was trying to get to the adult part of me, not the little girl part. But the little girl part was so strong.
> but it doesn't mean the love and warmth go away...
> it's out of caring too...
> I know it's hard to feel it, but the times it has happened, I've talked it through with my T and she explained to me why she treated me in a certain way or pushed me hard and I understood it was because she truly cares and wanted me to react, even though it hurt.*** Yeah, I kind of think he wanted to get me to be angry with him. See the post to Dinah (below, I guess).
>
> Your T doesn't stop caring....it's hard, and painful, when they push us hard and we need safe love but it doesn't mean they don't love us anymore.**** I hope you're right. I just want to be special, and I'm so scared that I won't be.
>
> Hard sessions are horrible, it will be ok, you will discuss this with him and he will make you feel safe again...
>**** Again, I hope so.
> I know it hurts a lot, when it happens I lose all sense of safety...but it will be ok...
>
> love,
> Frida
>**** Yeah, it feels like I've lost my one grounding in the world and am all alone again.
sunnydays
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