Posted by cassie17 on November 14, 2006, at 13:43:16
In reply to Re: my friends jumped me :( » kerria, posted by Phillipa on November 7, 2006, at 11:52:19
Kerria, I think what you are not considering is that most people on that thread were only objecting to the way you'd deny saying specific things, like in several posts, you'd write things that were all in the vein of "Noone has every had this happen to them, nobody has ever had such horrible things happen" and when people brought up those phrases in your posts, you'd write back that you'd never said those things and why were they telling lies about you? So when people quoted your old posts for these times, you took it as a personal attack, instead of just admitting that you'd written that and going on from there.
I just wouldn't want people to get the wrong idea of that other forum. Several of the people who posted were out of line and angry for reasons that had to do with themselves, but your posts regularly got 80 or 90 responses each, and the bulk of those people (10 -20 people) were NOT attacking you, were trying to encourage you to get away from (what you'd described as) an abusive T, to get away from (what you'd described as) an abusive husband. MANY of the responses were positive, and it felt like you only chose to see and respond to the negatives.
You asked what you could do? There were wonderful questions that a forum member took a bunch of time to write out to you, very thoughtful questions (from Zippy) and I think that's the kind of positive stuff that forum members hoped you would be able to work with.
(I just didn't feel it was completely fair to say that so many people jumped you, we didn't. Several people were WRONG and ABUSIVE, and I don't think they should have closed your M+M thread, I REALLY don't agree with that, and I don't agree with the way the mods treated your posts. and alot of the Mods decisions with your posts led me to look for other forums too. Have you checked out Pandora's Aquarium? It is a very positive healing place.)
I hope you can find peace with all of the emotions coming up for you,
Cassie, (known as meg9)
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