Posted by caraher on September 2, 2006, at 18:07:39
In reply to caraher, Poet, MidnightBlue, posted by ElaineM on September 2, 2006, at 14:54:36
> I'm sorry if it's rude to do group replies (I'm not sure what people think of that.) but I'm just not good with my words right now -- and it's hard to transfer blankness, tears to the screen.
It's not at all rude... I don't think there's any expectation at all of an individual reply to each individual post.
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> I don't think I'll ever believe good things about myself.Well, let's try and see what happens. Not much to lose, is there? :)
>There is what I think of, and how I experience myself. There's a ton of evidence of what others have thought of me, from my experiences in the past. There's the people who hate me now (or at least, don't care).....And then there is an old T, an old Doc, and you guys who are saying differently. And my T (who I guess, doesn't count). And while the gesture is appreciated, the "EL's bad" side is sooo much bigger -- And it makes sense to me.
Could you try this, El? Maintain a list of good things people have said about you. I have my own list of nice things you (and others) have said about me, and that helps me. (So far I'm only *slightly* conceited as a result ;) ) As you watch the list grow you might find it more and more effective against your sour memories of hateful people who have put you down.
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> Does anyone ever not hate themself?Believe it or not, it does happen, even to people like you who can't imagine ever feeling that way. Even if you don't yet believe you're lovable, act as if you are. Someday you might even start believing it yourself!
(((El)))
poster:caraher
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