Posted by Tamar on June 22, 2006, at 17:50:04
In reply to Re: I failed again, posted by fallsfall on June 22, 2006, at 10:46:08
> My first therapist was CBT, and when I told her that I thought I needed to go "deeper" she said that she didn't do that. But I insisted, and she tried, but she didn't do it well at all. I stayed with her because I "needed" her. Eventually it all fell apart (mostly because she couldn't give me what I needed). She kept trying to tell me that she had taught me all that she knew, but I couldn't go to someone else.
I think if my therapist says anything like that to me I will trust his judgement. But it hasn’t come to that yet, and I do find our work useful despite the frustrations.
> Eventually I did change therapists (to a psychodynamic one). What a difference. We had recreated the transference problem AND resolved it within 8 weeks. Of course, there were (and are) many more to go, but I was amazed at how quickly this therapist could get to the issues and how easily he could help me work through them.
Wow! Eight weeks???!!! I think you have to take some of the credit for that yourself and not hand it all to your therapist. I could barely string a sentence together eight weeks into therapy!
> I encourage you to ask your therapist what kind of therapy might be more helpful for you.
Yes. I think it’s clear that he thinks I need long term therapy, and he can’t offer me that because of the restrictions of the service he works in. But I’m really not ready for it. Or at least I’m not ready to see someone different.
Thanks Falls. That was a very useful take on it.
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