Posted by lostinfeelings on October 19, 2005, at 17:42:27
In reply to Re: help, posted by bird in the sky on October 18, 2005, at 20:52:23
>I can understand what you are saying there are some therapist out there that are afraid because they may had been through the same thing and they have been stalked by the clients, sometimes that puts a fear in them if you know what I mean. some therapist just do not understand maybe you might want ot find another one that does understand and maybe it might help you heal.... It took me 35 years to find the right one for me,
I have talked with my T a bit about this. Why he won't give me a hug. (yes, i have asked, pleaded, gestured etc) Our talk was before he knew i am in love with him. Maybe even before i knew... I think it mostly has to do with he thinks the boundaries should be this way as far as the T/client relationship. He mentioned that a client could claim improper touching and he could lose his liscence. I tried to convince him otherwise and even threatened to stop seeing him cause it sounded like he didn't trust me. I gave in first and continued to see him. I don't know why it's so important to me, he says it has to do with the love i didn't receive from my mom. but that doesn't help my desire and longing...
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