Posted by cricket on September 9, 2005, at 16:04:11
In reply to Re: Lying Therapist » cricket, posted by Shortelise on September 9, 2005, at 13:57:51
> From your perspective, I hate this guy. He sounds like a sh*t, the worst kind of therapist, making you feel crazy for your perceptions. Really, I hate him.
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Yeah, I'm not feeling too good about him much of the time either this week.> But there is always the other side of the coin, the "projection" stuff, and from out here I can't tell if it is you or it is him.
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I can't even tell from the inside either. Am I prone to projection? Absolutely.> From what you write, and you seem to make sense, I think it's him, and that your perceptions are valid, and that you should get the honk out of there and into therapy with a decent therapist. But I could be so wrong.
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ShortE, I appreciate your support and advice no matter what.> That's the problem with this kind of contact we have here. On the one hand, I really want to support you and your feelings, but on the other hand, what if you *are* projecting all this onto him?
>> But ugh, I'd hate him if he dealt with my projecting the way he is with yours, if that's what it is. I'd hate him if it wasn't projecting and he dealt with it the way you describe. Ok, I just hate your T. As angry as I have been at mine at times, I always always work through it with him, and almost always he owns what I think is his stuff. Sometimes we do disagree on whose stuff it is, but that is so so rare.
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> Cricket, I am sorry. I hope I am not adding to your confusion.
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Not at all. You're helping me think this through. Next to the support, that's the best thing about Babble.So if I am projecting, does he know it? He certainly knows I am more and more unhappy. He knows I feel frustrated with the process.
So why doesn't he say, "I know you are very unhappy. I know you often doubt therapy in general and me in particular, but I am on your side and I want to help you."
Just that much.
Instead he'll say something like, "So you think I'm full of it. You think I have no idea what I'm talking about. You think everyone in your job is full of it too." And then the arms will cross and the legs will cross and he'll turn his body.
Maybe I am being too sensitive. But then I will just hang my head and not look at him anymore. So why doesn't he realize he is being too harsh, too cold? Or does he?
And if he does, then why does he continue to do it?
It's certainly not simple, is it?
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