Posted by JenStar on September 9, 2005, at 9:58:27
In reply to Lying Therapist, posted by cricket on September 9, 2005, at 8:49:02
hi Cricket,
you don't seem crazy! You seem rightfully annoyed at his behavior. He sounds like one of those therapists who want to be a "blank slate", a mirror that has no feelings but merely reflects YOURS. How annoying to have your words thrown back at you -- if you say he looks angry, he says YOU are; if you say he looks upset, he says YOU'RE the upset one.I mean, maybe you ARE angry and upset. But he could be, too. And you're not asking about yourself, you're asking about him. Why can't he own up to his feelings, esp. if it's bothing you so much? It's not like you want to spend the whole hour talking about him...you just want to do a process check and see how he's doing on his side of the fence, right? Seeing how he's doing with your therapy?
I would also be very frustrated if my T did this kind of behavior. But I do think that hard as it is, maybe it would feel rewarding to call him on all of it once before you go. Tell him everything - that you hate his answering calls and not apologizing for it, that his body language disturbs you, that you feel he's sometimes rude, etc. Maybe just get it ALL out there! -- And see what he says. You never know...maybe some great honesty and breakthroughs will come of it. And if you, you can leave with an easy heart (as easy as possible) knowing that you tried everything?
In any case, I'm sorry he's acting this way.
take care,
JenStar
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