Posted by Dinah on July 15, 2005, at 17:13:33
In reply to Re: Been thinking about the saying.... » Dinah, posted by Daisym on July 14, 2005, at 12:49:37
> Don't you think the loneliness is there to push you to seek out "real" people and "real" comfort? I think internalizing your therapist gives us the stability and confidence we need to get through things and reaching out to other people makes us more comfortable, less lonely, as we get through things. I'm reaching the conclusion that experiencing understanding, acceptance and comfort in therapy makes me want it more outside of therapy. Once I get past wanting my therapist to do it all, I think I will (and have) slowly let other people meet some of these needs.
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> Scares me to death because so far I've tried and failed at this several times. I want to say it is them, but I'm pretty sure it is me. My needs are big and very hard...
It doesn't really make me want to seek it outside therapy. I dunno. Maybe I think I'll devour other people with my bottomless pit of need. I don't seem to be really good with casual relationships.It just seems that since my therapist has ceased to be so important to me, I feel lost and empty. I leave each session realizing he hasn't said anything I haven't heard before, or couldn't tell myself. I rarely feel that held feeling.
I hate it. I want to turn back time.
Maybe I can get along without him just fine. Maybe I've internalized him to that extent.
But it feels rotten and I hate it.
I want to need him like I used to, but I just don't see that happening.
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