Posted by happyflower on June 10, 2005, at 17:03:43
In reply to Re: Scared, ready to expose my skeltons to T » happyflower, posted by fallsfall on June 10, 2005, at 16:49:55
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> We went to a marriage counselor. He asked us to remember what we enjoyed doing together the most in the beginning of our marriage (19 years before). We had enjoyed constructing things for the turtles we kept (i.e. rafts, filtration etc.). He asked us to do a project like that. So we decided to build a wheel for my hedgehog. We started working on it, but it was more like each of us was doing something separately. Then there was a part that he said that he would do, but he never got around to doing it. If this exercise in therapy wasn't important enough for him to put any effort into it, then I wasn't important to him.
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> What a great T! I think you tell a lot about the elements of a marraige if you see how they work togethter and build something. Last summer my husband and I built our own koi pond. Waterfall, 3000 gallon pond. Well I am sure the neighboors thought we were getting a divorse by all the yelling and frustration they heard. By the way, if any of you are want a pond, LET SOMEONE ELSE BUILD AND DIG IT! Don't try to save money and do it yourself! lol Well the good news to the story is that all the koi lived, the lilley pads are all coming up through the water, and the fish and frogs are all happy producing babies. The end. lol
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