Posted by happyflower on June 10, 2005, at 12:42:45
In reply to Re: Scared, ready to expose my skeltons to T, posted by B2chica on June 10, 2005, at 12:27:12
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> there are times where i too think i may be 'outgrowing' my husband. i think sometimes that had i received therapy for my needs sooner than i may not have married him.Wow B2, this is what I told my T a month ago. I think he didn't like what I was saying because right now, my marriage is the only thing secure that I have to hold on to.
He is often afraid of my independance also, he is very insecure and often asks me if i'm going to leave him. it's difficult to be the 'strength' of the marriage when you're falling apart inside isn't it.
This is exactly how I feel. It is so hard to be the strength when I NEED him to be there for me during my difficult time in therapy. It isn't like he isn't there for me, but more like I am afraid to unload all the stuff when I know he is going through his own stuff right now. But when do I get to be the weaker one? I need to be the one leaning.
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Thank you B2, you have really given me the courage to talk to my T next week about this. This feels like such a turning point, I hope I don't get scared and run away from my T.
poster:happyflower
thread:510528
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