Posted by pinkeye on June 10, 2005, at 14:47:59
In reply to Re: Scared, ready to expose my skeltons to T » happyflower, posted by pinkeye on June 10, 2005, at 14:36:05
Actually, why don't you just try to take your husband along with you instead of progressing independantly? That way would save your marriage also. Try to share whatever you learn with him, and try to help him develop also - so that he would also become a better personality? My marriage is not one of the greatest, but whatever I learn, I try to share it with my hsuband to whatever extent possibly in a non-offending, non-superior way. And I can see he has also really grown in the past 4 years, and he has helped me also with many religious insights and way of looking at life which I didn't know.. (we have loads and loads of issues in our marriage, but atleast we work on it this way, and with the amount of issues that we have, I think the reason that we stuck with each other is this basic non - egoistic attitude).
> I am going to reply in detail later, (now I am little very busy), but the thing is real growth and evolution doesn't threaten anybody. It is only when we falsely assume arrogance and pride in the name of growth and independance, that we get on other people's nerves.
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> It is something I learnt after a long time. Women are nowadays holding lots of different highly charged careers - from pilots to being in the army to business, and corporate Vice Presidents, to Big Business woman to Ministers to everything. And they all keep their husbands.
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> Men don't fear women's independance and capacity and ability. They only fear arrogance, and being proud and superiority complex. As long as you avoid that and are conscious that whatever you do, you are ultimately a human being first - you will not have any problem. And that way I think of it is, All of us are servants of God - in different capacities. Some people are endowed with more power, and some people less. But with higher power comes higher responsibility - not frivoulousness or arrogance. The higher you go, the humbler you become. I think as long as you adopt that attitude, you can become the president of the US and your husband won't have a problem.
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