Posted by Aphrodite on June 11, 2005, at 22:01:58
In reply to Scared, ready to expose my skeltons to T, posted by happyflower on June 10, 2005, at 11:18:37
I often feel that talking about others, including my husband, is a type of betrayal. (I always adhered to that "if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything" rule.) My T has helped me see the error of that thinking, that the betrayal of hiding it or denying it is really betraying myself. I will not heal or improve anything if I can't admit and talk about the problem.
Whatever honesty brings to your life, it will be for the better. And I truly hope that it is that you will be able to be your authentic self and that your husband will grow to love and accept that. I'm sorry that he feels so insecure. My husband has the opposite problem -- a bit too much self-confidence! I told him once that I've discussed our marital problems with my T, and he said, "Better him than me!" You can obviously see one of my problems there;)
It's good that you've written your feelings. It can help you organize and practice before you go. Perhaps that will help you be less apprehensive.
Good luck to you! Let us know how it turns out. (Now you have to tell your T because all of us will be waiting to hear!)
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