Posted by happyflower on June 11, 2005, at 22:35:13
In reply to Re: Scared, ready to expose my skeltons to T » happyflower, posted by Aphrodite on June 11, 2005, at 22:01:58
> I often feel that talking about others, including my husband, is a type of betrayal. (I always adhered to that "if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything" rule.)
I feel this way too, it is like I should be thankful for what I got and not complain about my husband. I do feel sort of guilty about it.
My T has helped me see the error of that thinking, that the betrayal of hiding it or denying it is really betraying myself. I will not heal or improve anything if I can't admit and talk about the problem.
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I like this thought, I guess I have a lot more to think about. It sounds like you have a great T.> Whatever honesty brings to your life, it will be for the better. And I truly hope that it is that you will be able to be your authentic self and that your husband will grow to love and accept that.
This must have been one of the nicest things anyone has ever said to me. Thank you so much! :)
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> It's good that you've written your feelings. It can help you organize and practice before you go. Perhaps that will help you be less apprehensive.
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> Good luck to you! Let us know how it turns out. (Now you have to tell your T because all of us will be waiting to hear!)Yikes, now I have performance anxiety! lol
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