Posted by daisym on April 26, 2005, at 1:50:28
In reply to Re: Using Therapy (sorry, rather longwinded) » Daisym, posted by littleone on April 25, 2005, at 21:55:22
"I'm still really fuzzy and confused over the whole content vs process thing."
I get confused about that too sometimes. I'll say things like, "I feel like I'm avoiding hard therapy stuff by focusing in on "our" relationship and he always says, "this *is* a primary part of your therapy!"
It took me a long time to really attach and I would still describe my attachment as insecure. I'm clearly attached to him, I just don't trust that this is a good thing yet. I often say I hate process, but at least for me, I need to dump a content something out there and then process what I said or remembered. And it has happened that while we were chatting about this or that that we went to a place I never would have expected. Which can be scary but very productive.
My therapist believes strongly that the healing is in the relationship. And the relationship grows by spending time together and talking about real things. These things reveal a lot about who I am and what I think I should be. He needs the small stuff to build on and often he will help close out a session by working some small things into the discussion. Your therapist is right, it builds trust.
I'm glad you are able to talk more. Keep up the good work!
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