Posted by pinkeye on March 22, 2005, at 16:19:50
In reply to Re: I read further, posted by LG04 on March 22, 2005, at 14:21:31
I try to make both my emotional self and logical self be friends with each other. And not suppress one or the other. Feelings are always more powerful and absolute, whereas I have more control over my logical thinking and actions. The way I think of it is I view the emotional self as an operating system, and my logical self as the application software (in case you are familiar with computer technology). Operating system always has more power ultimately, and it is absolute, but certain times, when OS fails or does not perform well, I can compensate for that with more able application software.
Like that, when my emotional self (or what you call as kid self) misbehaves or acts in a way that my logical self doesn't want it to, I tell that emotional self, "it is ok to feel whatever you are feeling, but this is what is possible now and is ultimately good. So right now I need to override you a little bit. And wehn the right moment comes, I will help you satisfy the urge that you are having now. ". And whenver possible in other areas, I try to give my emotional self as much satisfaction as possible. That way they are both friends with each other, knowing that they might sometimes need to override each other, but most of the time they work in unison.
I am not sure I am making too much of a sense here and if it helps you, but that is the way I control my urges and calm down my emotional or child self.
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