Posted by Joslynn on March 22, 2005, at 10:51:29
In reply to countertransference in therapist LONG, posted by LG04 on March 21, 2005, at 8:04:30
I was a little confused by your post. In one part you asked if we could live with there being no way to contact our Ts between sessions but in another part you said that you do communicate with her in between session with scheduled phone calls.
So, was what upset you the fact that, while she is still doing the scheduled phone calls, she said she couldn't do calls in between scheduled phone calls?
If that is the case, I do think that if I were a T, I would want to set the same boundaries she did HOWEVER she should have set them from the start and not flip flopped, no wonder you're confused.
I think it is always hurtful and confusing when someone suddenly changes the rules. That said, I would understand why it would be a lot for her to do the regular in person session, two scheduled phone calls, emails and also unscheduled phone calls. I hope you don't mind that I say that, but it does seem like it would be a lot for one person to do. However, it sounds like she did it for a while, so I just wish she had given you more notice that things would change.
I have had painful transference too, really bad, and it did get better but I know that it magnifies everything.
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