Posted by judy1 on March 16, 2005, at 11:40:07
In reply to Re: so what's this all about? (long a trigger ) » Dinah, posted by mair on March 16, 2005, at 10:09:10
Hi Mair,
just wanted to put in my two cents, or three cents- whatever :-).
I always have gotten the impression from your posts that you convey a strength to other people that at times you don't feel yourself. I truly don't think that's a bad thing, it's ceratinly a ruse I have employed myself (particularly in work situations, but with my husband and kids as well). The problem comes when we don't allow ourselves to take advantage of any help that is offered- for example your therp's phone call. Maybe at this time you can't make any therapeutic progress- but you certainly can use someone to lean on, even if it's just to sit and cry for an hour in your therp's office. I most certainly have been there, feeling ashamed of my meltdown and afraid to show it. I guess that's the great thing about therps- they never make you feel guilty about being depressed (and I know you realize that's why you are feeling ashamed, unmotivated, etc.). Basically I'm asking if you can just accept that you are going to feel this way for 'X' amount of time, have your support in place and use it (your therp), realize that you will make it through this day, week, or month and come out on the other side.
did I just ramble? sorry. Please take care of yourself, mair- judy
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