Posted by littleone on January 12, 2005, at 14:14:42
In reply to Re: I told him this today » CareBear04, posted by Dinah on January 12, 2005, at 5:38:29
> I think I do try to please my therapist too much, or consider his feelings a lot. But maybe sometimes I'm considering feelings I'm afraid he'll have, not feelings he'll actually have.
This part always confuses me. In one way I understand that the therapy is for you alone and you should be able to say anything you want without fear of repercussions or hurting the T or whatever. But in another way, I don't get this at all.In long term therapy where the emphasis is on the relationship, isn't part of a relationship being considerate of the other person's feelings? Isn't it supposed to be kind of like practice for real life?
I understand that holding things back can be detrimental to the therapy, but in the same way, wouldn't slagging on your T or saying things that might drive a bit of a wedge between you also be detrimental? He may become more distanced or whatever.
I don't know. Just black and white thinking stuff kicking in again. I need an instruction manual for this stuff.
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