Posted by Dinah on January 11, 2005, at 20:29:58
In reply to Re: There are things I'm reluctant to tell therapi » Dinah, posted by Aphrodite on January 9, 2005, at 15:27:09
He says he's really nonjudgmental and I can tell him anything. I'm still not sure. I'm even less sure it's important. Fantasies are just fantasies, and the only reason it feels important is because there's almost nothing I'd prefer not to tell him. He says that if it's something I know I don't want to tell him, it must be important. But I don't think it works that way.
Yes, my impression was based on something concrete. I was talking about some highly embarassing college stories along the "everything but..." lines, and he not only talked about how normal and ok it was, but that it was generally considered by many to be something best left for later. It's possible he was validating what he thought were my feelings rather than expressing his own, though.
Other times it just feels more of a stepping back or shying away. I'm good at monitoring the level of intimacy in the room. But it's possible that that just has to do with the fact that it's easier to talk about sex with people you aren't emotionally intimate with. Early in therapy he recommended orgasm as an anxiety coping skill. I am absolutely positive he would do no such thing today. It would be embarassing for both of us in a way it wasn't when we barely knew one another.
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