Posted by daisym on December 28, 2004, at 19:05:51
In reply to Re: Coexisting Ego States » daisym, posted by Pfinstegg on December 28, 2004, at 18:47:35
As I walked out today, I told him, "tomorrow we talk about lasagna recipes." He laughed. I'm glad you ended on a good note too.
There is this dance, isn't there? You build a little more trust, you tell some more of the details, you revisit the trust, tell some more and then you shake that trust really hard, to see if it will hold up. When it does, there is this immense relief and momentary calm. And then the dance starts again.
I'm actually not sure if integration is his goal as much as it is mine. I think he would like there to not be a war between the age states, fighting for who is in charge. I know he warns about being careful not to confuse integration with subjugation, stuffing her and her feelings and memories back into the box from which she came. (and yes, that felt good just to write)!
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