Posted by Aphrodite on January 1, 2005, at 7:46:08
In reply to Re: Daisy Pfinstegg » Aphrodite, posted by daisym on December 29, 2004, at 16:36:30
I smiled at your account of the article you just read because I am knee-deep in a book about countertransference issues, compassion fatigue, vicarious traumatization, etc. I keep bringing things up, and he finally got irritated and ordered me to stop reading that! I said I found it helpful to understand things from his point of view, but he said that was insulting because his point of view is not in that book and I am making generalizations about him that are not his "truths." "If you want to know what kind of reaction *I* am having, ask ME!"
So, I told him that we haven't even begun to talk about any real issues, and I feared that I have used up his well of compassion on just forming trust and a relationship and talking about the fears of letting go and telling the tales. He reassured me that his well is replenishable and that his privilege and desire is to help and that I had no idea how easy I am to care for and give to. It was nothing like the book, so I'm glad he made me ask.
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