Posted by antigua on January 1, 2005, at 12:12:48
In reply to Re: Coexisting Ego States » antigua, posted by Aphrodite on January 1, 2005, at 8:03:01
Thank you Aphrodite, that was very kind of you.
You brought up a good question--whether or not I still have the capacity for attachment. Hadn't thought about it that way. I certainly have it w/my children, but at this point I truly feel and believe that nobody can help me but me. I don't say that meanly, or to garner self pity, it just seems to be the objective truth. Then again, I'm certain I'm wrong, too, and I hope I'm just going through a phase. The funny thing is that it's not like I can just "let go" and trust. Is there a trick I don't know about?
This may sound silly, but my expectations must be too high (that feeling of wanting something I can never have, probably, because it's a bygone needy feeling from infancy) and since other people (my T, for ex) can't live up to the expectation, I just can't trust them. Lowering my expectations IS what I do IRL, because that's the way life is, but I can't seem to do that when it comes to my most desperate needs.
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