Posted by gardenergirl on December 23, 2004, at 6:57:05
In reply to Re: I'm With Fallen On This One » Rigby, posted by Fallen4MyT on December 23, 2004, at 0:34:12
Crushed,
I was thinking that perhaps this thread is kind of representative itself of how you might be feeling? It seems like with this conflict, there is not a clear difference between options. At any rate, it's clear you are feeling really awful. I wish there were an easy answer.Somebody I respect a great deal said an interesting thing to me the other day. She said (regarding a different conflict) that sometimes all alternatives are bad. The task, then, is to choose the one that hurts the least. And only you can do that, unfortunately. I wish I could help more.
And I think I can relate about how you posted mostly negative things about your former T, and that only presents one side of it. I tend to complain about the negatives about my husband to my T, and I have to remember to make an effort to say some good things, too. That way I make sure he realizes that my husband really is a good man and not a complete clod. ;)
I do think that if your depression is getting worse with the new T, that is telling. Regardless of whether you are working on the transference or not, alleviating depression is a goal, right?
At any rate, if I could, I would come over and just sit quietly with you in support.
Take care,
gg
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