Posted by Rigby on December 22, 2004, at 2:15:57
In reply to Re: I'm very close to going back to old T » fallsfall, posted by crushedout on December 21, 2004, at 23:23:29
Hi Crushed,
What stands out to me is that you went to this new therapist to not be there permanently but to have a place to go to perhaps process your first therapist. And you now say she hasn't been helping you with that. If your main goal is to get through feelings about your first therapist I would ask yourself, as a "consumer" why you aren't making that a priority?
It strikes me as perhaps a theme because your feelings of transference with your first therapist were unbearable. But you never seemed to cover them in therapy--it just didn't come up, your therapist didn't handle it or claimed you dissociated--but in the end, what was desperately important to you wasn't being worked on. Why not?
I guess I feel that old therapist or new, life is precious, time is ticking and these are really big "building" years for you (relationship, family, career.) I would think you'd want to maximize your time in whoever's office you choose to help you overcome some obstacles that have stood in the way of you achieving dreams. I just don't want to see you spend these important years focused on the *process* of therapy and on the therapist herself vs. the enormous benefits that could come of what a good analyst could offer you.
Hope this makes some sense--it's late and I'm rambling a bit.
Rigby
> yeah ideally taht would make sense but she really hasn't been helping me with it. we just haven't been talking about it, and when we do, it doesn't go anywhere. i'm serious. i'm not just saying this.
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> also, she's on vacation till jan. 3.
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> but i'll consider what you say very carefully. i'll try not to act rashly
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