Posted by fallsfall on November 17, 2004, at 23:00:36
In reply to what she wrote, posted by crushedout on November 17, 2004, at 19:43:30
You gave her the option to do what she wanted with her schedule, and she has. But you have no obligation to go on the 30th, or to other sessions after that. You have told her that you aren't planning to come, so you shouldn't need to pay for them, nor feel guilty if she doesn't fill the slots.
At least she understands that you are protecting yourself.
Yes, you *do* need to work through what has gone on in the relationship with her. But it is not necessarily true that you need to work through that *with her*. You can do that work with someone else. (You seem to be in a similar position to where I was, where I *couldn't* work through it with her - so I *had* to find someone else who I could work through it with)
Try not to read things into what she said. All she actually said was that she will have your appointment available on the 30th, if you want to come. And that it can be helpful to talk about issues. Try to leave it at that.
Now she has responded, so you can stop worrying about what she will say. I can't imagine that even she would write again before the 30th. So try to catch your breath and figure out with your new therapist how to move on.
You are doing great. Hang in there.
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